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big hoops

I haven't gone out in public wearing these earrings yet. They were an impulse purchase and later thought they were a tad too oversized for my face but now I'm not so sure.

Anyway sometimes it's good to try new styles...


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a slow descent

Of course it has gone too far now. Trump is now reversing his ill conceived separation of asylum seekers from their children which involved putting them in makeshift concentration camps. As the United States edges closer to flirting with fascism, the media just reports on his daily imbecilic and spasmodic tweets while the Republican party sits idly by doing nothing. Everyone is afraid to cross the angry bear; a fact which was echoed recently by outgoing Republican senator Bob Corker.

Meanwhile Trump's rallies remind one of Hitler's rise to power with his lowest common denominator crowds crying with a maniacal fervor and in unison "build that wall, build that wall!"

This administration is corrupt and immoral. It began with discourse about Mexicans who rape, Muslims who bomb and LGBT people who impose themselves on society but slowly it is pushing the envelope of rationality and respectability to its very limits. Each day the dialogue becomes coarser and less things a…

a small step forward

Now that the ICD-11 (International Classification of Diseases) has removed the stigma of being transgender considered a mental illness, there are still other layers of subtlety to be resolved but it is a definite improvement and, those who sought to stigmatize transgender people, will now have a little less ammunition.

To me this whole issue can be boiled down to one thing: how does one live in a world that doesn’t know what to make of you? Do you transition fully and pick a side or do you exist in some partial form which can sometimes complicate your life in how you present and are addressed by the public?

This is part of my thinking process today where I am reflecting on how to live my life going forward.

The strength of your cross-gender identification plays a huge role here and some people simply must transition but what I like about today is that others are freer to choose some variant that stops shy of this goal. Not everyone will opt for surgery for example but will otherwise l…

imperfection

It's only when we look back on our lives that we recognize our patterns; the blinders that kept us from progressing into another state of consciousness and inhibiting elevation into new and improved ways of thinking.

Today I am a very different person and when I take stock of the lessons I have absorbed I realize how marked that change has been. Even the last two years have seen major progress where my own blinders have seen a significant lifting and I have examined the obstacles that held me back. Perhaps the trick is to always second guess ourselves and not assume we are necessarily on the right track. After all, our humanness, by its very definition, implies imperfection and the propensity to err.

Pain is part of life and when experiences sear us with a scar it can act as a reminder which doesn't go to waste. The aim to is to achieve new awareness about our personal truth and define ourselves outside of the limitations imposed by the outside world.

Regardless of our origi…

answering the question

I have been pondering the subject of gender dysphoria for many years now and back when I thought I was a deviant in need of a cure I was certain that I could defeat this calling within me that has always been there. It took me a long while to admit that I wasn’t a crossdresser or a T-girl. Most seem to be able to put the clothes away until the next opportunity and don’t necessarily suffer the persistence of a gender dysphoria that almost never sleeps.

But the reason I am no longer conflicted is because I have accepted my reality fully: transsexualism is a condition one is born with. There is nowhere left to hide and I am tending to my reality in an imperfect way for now and maybe for the long haul.

However, I also don’t want to get to the end of my life wondering “what if” which is why I have begun to consider the possibility of a transition. I am at that edge where on the one hand there is hesitation about stepping through an uncertain door and on the other is the excitement of new …

a natural

You could be forgiven for thinking this was a female singer imitating 80's performer Corina Chiriac but it is instead Romanian singer Sebastian Muntean in the makeup, dress and the heels. The performance is live and there is no lip syncing.

Sebastian's movements are graceful, feminine and very natural and he could most certainly pass for a genetic woman. See if you agree...



underneath the makeup