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egalitarian world

Ana Maria is a strong independent woman who wants to make a difference in our company. She is in her late 30's, married mother of 2 children, highly intelligent and very communicative.

However being a woman in a highly technical field, she isn't taken as seriously as she should be and is sometimes brought to tears when she confides in me about it.

She is my closest female confidant there and knows all about my transgender past and present and is a huge supporter of mine as I am of hers.

The single biggest complaint that we have when we transition is that suddenly we become invisible. People who took our advice without question suddenly defer to another male colleague and this is what Ana Maria faces every day even when her idea is the best one. Invariably, she tells me, it must be supported and pushed by a male colleague if it is to gain traction.

Things have changed enormously since I began in this business but they still have a ways to go and Ana Maria notices the marked dif…

taking the plunge ever again

While I was having a bite recently with Ralph (Shybiker) he asked me the following question: “Would you ever be interested in pursuing another relationship?”

I then reflected for a moment and came up with an answer: yes and no.

No, I will never look again in a conscious way. I am not the type of person who goes online and seeks somebody out and finding a fully accepting partner as a transgender person is a bit like finding a needle in a haystack; especially one from my generation. In other words, you would be wasting time searching instead of living your life.

At this point my biggest fear is repression and I will never return to it. Once we achieve an echelon in our transgender journey there is no going back because we must claw our way slowly and deliberately inch by inch just to get where we are. Meeting someone who would have me go backwards is just not something I want at this stage of my life.

Is there openness on my part? Of course there is but it would now take a formidable so…

a very stable genius

Ya gotta love Randy Rainbow...


punked

You won't believe what Sacha Baron Cohen gets these Republican rubes to say. The creator of Borat on his new special called "Who is America" does his best to expose stupidity through the use of comedy and its both funny and tragically sad at the same time...


fun exchanges

I have loads of fun complementing women on their clothes or shoes.

Invariably I will get a huge smile or earnest thank you and a little banter will result. I am not trying to get anything out of it but it's just part of the fun that comes from being a girl. I don't do it all the time just when the spirit moves me and I gauge it will be well received.

By this age my shyness filter is all but gone and very little makes me hesitate save for outing another trans person of course. Plus it's harmless and brings me and them a little sunshine into our day.

The latest episode involved me commenting on a woman's black Prada pumps. They must have been 4 inches high with the stiletto heel. I told her how nice they looked and how I admired her ability to walk in them

"Honey I've been living in these since I was 14" she said beaming a big smile at me

"You should get yourself a pair!"

Of course I was wearing my chunky heel pumps and pointed to them extolling …

The fog

Attack the media, lie, insult allies and more. These are the signs of a classic scoundrel and burgeoning fascist. Robert Reich warns about not being fooled by the subterfuge.

Oh and to the anonymous person who clearly misunderstood my post on NATO: Trump can leave NATO and take all his toys away as well. America will only find itself increasingly isolated and other unions will be formed. You don't get to shit on your allies through beligerance and still expect any kind of support.

It's called burning bridges...