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new shoes...

Tony's shoes is a store that carries larger women's sizes (I believe to size 14). So since my amalfi patent leather pumps had seen better days,I went over this morning to have a look at their stock to find a deal.I went in with no expectations and simply hoped for the best.

After looking at the front section of the store and finding nothing interesting, I started to look towards the middle. At this point one of the salesmen asked me what I was looking for. I pointed towards my feet and told him I wanted a comfortable classic pump in black. He told me to follow him and we headed towards the back of the store and another sales rack. After rummaging around in the selection he grabbed a pair of pretty ones and said I have these in 13 (I had asked for 12 but what the beck). After several minutes he returned with very cute black patent pumps which I proceeded to try on. Thankfully I had remembered to cream my feet and apply nail polish. They fit great and he said "those look nice on you miss" and I said "yes you're right!.

Anyway they were $108 on sale (a bargain for quality shoes like these). So I went to the cash a pretty happy girl. There was a lady being trained at the cash and while waiting to pay the salesman kept referring to me as she which made me even happier! I snapped a pic of my purchase...


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