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I can feel things getting better by the day. There will be little bumps coming for sure but it's all going in the right direction. For one thing my kids are more at home when they're staying with me. Before there was a certain discomfort due to the fact that my gf was not all that welcoming towards them and was in particular not a fan of my daughter. This was something I had a lot of difficulty with since I was trying to love her along with my children. But it seemed to be a type of competition for affection and it was not being driven by my children.

On a completely different note I was watching a video of Paolo ballesteros dancing in drag and it made me wonder whether he is not TG. I know he denies being gay (isn't that always the public assumption when you do more than one role in drag?) and he is just so naturally good as a woman that there has to be something there. Would not surprise me in the least if he comes out as transgender at some point. What I like about these stories is that we get to have more public role models who break more barriers and just normalize everything for the rest of us. If Paolo enjoys wearing dresses and doing drag roles but isn't gay, it will just show people that not only drag queens own the domain of cross gender performance. Being a hybrid myself I welcome more stories like these in the future.

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