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feeling better and thanksgiving

I am doing better after having gone through a rough spell the last two weeks. It's all part of the adjustment that is taking place in my life these days. But just starting to get a glimpse at the light at the end of the tunnel is very good. The timing couldn't be better as it's thanksgiving weekend and I have a lot to be thankful for. I am going to be ok on my own and perhaps even better than ok; someone like me is probably better off on their own anyway. Joanna can live more comfortably and she and I can share a space together. She is now the only woman in my life.

I have been enjoying my time as Joanna more than ever these days and it appears that I am on a natural progression towards some sort of equilibrium. Exactly what that balance point is remains to be seen but I suspect it will involve a continued hybrid lifestyle between my male and female personna. Honestly, if I felt that I absolutely had to transition I would but right now I think I can make this ying and yang deal work. There are too many potential pitfalls in switching over to being a woman full time anyway.

Keep meaning to get some new pics on here and definitely will soon.


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