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some days I SO feel like a woman

Lately I've been pondering how life might be if I truly went full time. Right now I've been living as a woman when not at work and when my kids are not here, but it wouldn't take a huge push to work as a woman as I am marketable in my field and could change companies in order to make the switch.

The key right now is sorting through my feelings and continue to live more and more as Joanna in order to see if I am truly happier in the role of a female. I will take some vacation trips as a woman and test the waters that way as well. It is clear however that I am getting an enormous buzz out of presenting as Joanna and wonder if that isn't just the novelty of the newness of it all. This is why I need to exercise caution before leaping into anything.

I suppose one scenario could be to start on low dosage hormones and see where that goes. I could still present as a male to my kids and strap my breasts down if needed. Again this is pure speculation at this point, but my mind has been going there of late; painting little scenarios.

I have seen big changes even in the last 3 months so even as I use caution, there is a path being carved out for me. I am praying about it as well and asking God to show me the way forward.

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