I admit I have a problem with that. How about the idea of thinking of others before yourself? A few posts back I wrote about the website of an early transitioner who thought that late transitioners were basically men in dresses and how once you had a family you were being selfish by expecting the world to stop revolving and accept you as a woman. I am not sure about the men in dresses bit, but I do agree with her about the second part. So if the writer's litmus test for really being a woman is ramming through the entire list of challenges (which she details in great fashion), then I am clearly missing something. Its all very well to realize who you really are and proceed to correct things but if the collateral damage is substantial plenty of people would think and rethink and then rethink some more. Some might even choose not to transition because the price is too great and not necessarily out of fear but out a sense of altruism.
Maybe I'm not a TRUE woman and so I don't get it. And I'm not saying one should not transition with children or a spouse (if she'll still have you) but what I am saying is that the overall governing concern should be your primary responsibilities in life because like it or not you lived 40 years plus as a man. Hard to erase that.
I will no doubt offend someone's sensibilities by saying all this but I really don't mean to. I know this is a thankless condition and it takes no prisoners.