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revealing year coming...??

I feel (rightly or wrongly) that the following year will be pivotal for me in putting everything in perspective. Already only 4 months on my own has taught me a lot about myself and how my trans nature fits into the grand scheme. Hormones and certainly surgery appear to be off the table, however my living full time as Joanna could (and that's a big could) have me working as Joanna. The advantage being that I can still be a dad to my kids but also be true to the woman I am.

I would have to be certain and do my homework way in advance but it could be feasible. After all people at work need not know how far I would go in the process but merely respect that I'm transgender. I would have a private consult with HR and gauge the company's receptiveness. I do work for a very professional firm that values my experience but I would take nothing for granted. I would need a very clear green signal that all would be fine.
Alternatively, I could approach a new firm with the express idea of informing them in advance that part of my reason for switching to them would be for the purposes of having a smoother transition. Notice I do not say smooth!

Right now all this in pipe dream mode but I do reflect on it as it may become real at some point. Were I to dismiss outright I would miss the opportunity to do the valuable ground work. As an example, the work I have done on my voice is currently paying dividends. Same would apply to other areas such as hair removal (which I am currently completing). Planning, planning, planning is the way to go even if I end up not working as a woman.

All this reading has taught me at least that. As I have said before, this does not mean I will bulldoze through an agenda which I will regret later. There are far too many sad endings to our stories as trans folk.

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