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of Zucker and repairist theories...

Ken Zucker does reparative therapy on children under 10 years of age to dissuade them from adopting an identity counter to their birth gender. For many parents who are trying to do the right thing in raising their children this becomes a viable path to explore. For others it means allowing their child to explore who they are and after consulting a therapist letting the natural inclination of the child to govern. If their child shows sufficient tenacity in their choice of gender identity then they are allowed in some cases to transition. I must admit that I do find some validity in both approaches although Zucker's reparative approach is more about repressing the child's natural inclination which may or may not represent a phase. Every parent wants the best for their offspring and desires for them a healthy and productive life and with this issue being so elementary to their core identity it needs to be focused on with great care. To make an error here could represent dire consequences in the life of their child and making an error in favor of one gender or another increase the chances they will suffer social stigma, depression, etc. So not an issue to take lightly.

I remember well my own initial steps towards the other gender and how they were discouraged. How I became a tranvestite (call me whatever you want) is still a complete mystery to me but it would be interesting to see what would have occurred had my mother not discouraged my gender play at such a tender age. Might that have actually quashed my later fascination with dressing up and satiated it early on? I will never know the answer to that question. But the question does enter my mind on occasion as I try and piece together my strategy for the next stretch of my life. All of my reading, my gender therapy as well as discussions with other trans people have not provided any more clarity since this is such a personal and ultimately private experience.

It is the ultimate question is it not? Does one go with their natural inclinations or does one suppress to fit one's birth gender. A question I am still wrestling with and likely will be for the rest of my life.

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