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a brief respit from self analysis....

Its interesting how my brain is bouncing about from day to day as I figure things out slowly. There are days when I'm thinking that I may eventually end up fully transitioned and others where I am certain I will not. The only difference being that one scenario involves physical transition but not the eradication of my female identity.

I am coming from a position of massive prejudice against any body tampering on religious grounds. That bias which is rooted in my strict Catholic upbringing is being removed so eventually I will be able to make a more objective assessment. This is why for example I delved very masochistically into AGP theory.

But its proven to be a dead end.

In the end I need to go by feel. I need to search my feelings and decide how to proceed. My life is about emotional happiness and is not a course in pop psychology.

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  1. "There are days when I'm thinking that I may eventually end up fully transitioned and others where I am certain I will not. The only difference being that one scenario involves physical transition but not the eradication of my female identity.

    These statements make no sense. How/would you change involving "...physical transition but not the eradication of my female identity."???

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  2. Means that I don't require necessarily a physical change to still identify with something that lives within me somehow. Just like some trans people choose to take HRT but not have the final surgery. Whatever works for you and helps you live with the disphoria

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  3. I know a number of people who live full time but don't do anything to their bodies. It makes them happy and works for them. I might just be one of them

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  4. That is kind of what I thought you meant. It just did not read that way in your statement. Like you say, "Whatever works".

    I might add, "If it works, don't fix it"

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