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Our online community has saved me; there is no question about that.

Without the precious input from others who are like me, I never would have made it this far in my life journey without severe impairment. Those of you who have given me insight and the benefit of your own experiences have contributed immeasureably to my being able to put things in perspective.

I know what is was like in the dark pre internet days and I shudder to think what young trans kids today would do without this important tool.

I hope my own little blog helps in its own way to provide the benefit of my own experience. I want to contribute to the discourse and to help other questioning people to find their way towards internal peace with their gender issues.

If I have helped even a little, it will mean everything to me.

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  1. I see most things as a process. Every time you get out and about, whether you pass or blend, you are opening doors not only for yourself but for others.
    Every time you post an entry on your blog you afford others the opportunity to look into your mind and to see what you are experiencing as you make your way through this sometimes and often confusing world.
    Pax
    Pat

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  2. Thank you pat for the vote of confidence!

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  3. Joanna -

    I don't make a big deal about outreach, etc. - I simply believe in going on about my life, and if I have the chance to talk - why not?

    You are simply following the same path we are on, maybe to a similar destination, maybe to a dissimilar location. But the path is the same for now. And the simple belief that we are not alone on this path has saved many of us. It has empowered us. It has made us more whole.

    M

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  4. I think that knowing that we are supported and buoyed by others is the key Marian.....

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