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Apologies if my last post insulted anyone's sensibilities.

I was trying to touch on the idea of avoiding transition through more liberal gender expression for those of us who might not be full transsexuals.

I would never presume to speak for those for whom there is no choice in the matter of whether they should or should not go all the way.

At a certain point you do need to make a choice what gender you will inhibit, unless you are an artist or employed in some field where your gender presentation and it's fluidity is not an issue.

I was perhaps being a little Utopian with my ideas but indeed it is sometimes nice to dream...


  1. No harm intended. I would think that by now all of your regular readers would know that while your personal jury may still be out regarding exactly how TG you may be there is no doubt that you are a kind and gentle soul who means no harm to anyone.

  2. I agree with Pat. No offense or presumption taken. I just like to keep everybody's feet on the ground and point out, as you have, that everyone's life is different.

  3. Thank you for your vote of confidence Pat...

  4. Joanna,

    You were quite clear that what you were saying applied to only you so no one should have taken insult with it. The important thing is that you shouldn't worry about what others think and it sounds like you no longer do. That worry just leads to dysphoria. You have no problems passing, if any one has a problem with that it's their problem and not yours.


  5. Thank you lindsay. I know you take low dosage of HRT and that AQV has been full time for many many years and Pat and I cross dress so yes we are indeed different. Vive la difference!

  6. Lest anyone misunderstand, let me be clear I am not "full time", nor am I "living full time". I recovered from a rare congenital disorder a lifetime ago and I do dislike and resent the implications and associations to "full time". Unlike you, I do not "pass". I agree with both you and Lindsay tat we should all respect our differences.

    I may have qualified for the transsexual label a very long time ago for a very short period, (several months), during my recovery from what was then an exceptionally painful and arduous medical procedure. I did in fact change my primary and secondary sexual characteristics. However, you and your readers should know that I never "identified" as "trans" anything and I find that label offensive, insensitive and highly inappropriate. Forty or fifty years ago, it might have applied. Today? Not so much.

    Again, please forgive me for clarifying how I feel about who I am, and how I "identify". While I am not speaking about you specifically, I do find it tiresome that others try to "spin" my past into anything resembling what they might think that they are experiencing now.

  7. I never think of you of as anything else than a woman AQV....

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