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a wasted opportunity

Michelle LeBlanc is a well known and gravelly voiced transsexual woman here in Quebec and her book, chronicling her life and transition, has been on bookstore shelves for almost 2 years now.

Yesterday I was in a store and a woman very politely approached me wearing a friendly smile and said

"Madame may I ask you a question? I just read Michelle Leblanc's book and I loved it!"

I knew where she was going and wasting a perfectly good opportunity to do outreach I responded quicker than my brain could keep up.

"Oh but I'm not a transsexual madame" in a very friendly way so that she would not feel embarassed.

She turned a little red and responded "Oh excuse me madame!"

I returned with "I guess I am a little large for a woman and people do sometimes stare at the mall"

For the record I am 6' 1".

"But I am not the least bit insulted and I think you're a very brave soul for coming up to me as most people would not have done so"

She had such a kind smile and such an inquisitive look on her face but I had already taken a proverbial wrong turn at Albuquerque; which I now regretted.

Maybe it was the mood I was in or that I felt I had little time to think and maybe I was upset that I might have been perceived as anything other than a tall genetic woman.

Near the end of our exchange I asked "Why did you think I was a transsexual madame? I guess I don't look feminine enough" I had a big secure smile on my face to show her I was not the least bit insulted.

Her eyes widened and she said "oh no no it was just based on your size!"

She seemed so genuine that I took her at her word and thought to myself: Joanna you wasted a perfectly good opportunity for outreach.

If I bump into her again I plan to correct my error.

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  1. Is it really a wasted opportunity? I think it just takes a while to work up the guts to do it. It'll get easier.

    Lindsay

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  2. Thing is that I've done it before but for some reason I blocked that day. Maybe I got up on the wrong side of the bed that day!

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