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class warfare

Perhaps I haven’t been clear enough for some but I don’t mind repeating it: this blog deals with my own experience with gender disphoria and how to best treat it.

It does not specifically target gender politics because I will say that my attitude is generally live and live and let live. But when I see that things make no sense I will comment on them of course.

If you are a man who dresses as a woman or a woman who dresses as a man then you have every right to do so. You may even have a particular situation at your workplace where this is permissible and perhaps even encouraged; I say more power to you.

I also don’t believe for one minute that allowing transgender people some measure of dignity, leads to societal chaos or anarchy. They deserve to not be killed, molested, raped, beaten in the streets or have any harm done to them whatsoever.

For example, so long as they respect the law and behave in an appropriate manner they deserve to use the restroom that reflects their gender presentation. A MtF transsexual who has received HRT treatments but has had no bottom surgery should be able to use a stall in the woman’s restroom rather than risk physical injury by using the men’s. Conversely they should maybe think twice about using the women’s shower at their local gym. This is basic common sense.

We have entered a period in our human development where the tenets of gender are being openly questioned and challenged. What does it mean to be male or female and how do those people who don’t feel a perfect allegiance to either fit into the picture?

As I have mentioned before, some cultures have a place for these types of people and they are even honoured in them. Our society with its more traditional Judeo Christian values has tended to frown upon any divergence from the norm and to do so is even sinful. I know this is how I grew up and I believed strongly that homosexuals, transsexuals, transvestites, etc were sinful people. Since I belonged in that group therefore, I must be sinful as well is what I believed.

But the gender politics born out of the earnest attempts to gain recognition for transgender people do not originate in the serious research; they were started by the human beings who were themselves being diagnosed.

If you read Harry Benjamin’s book (or any other scientific work on the subject) nowhere will you find a pronouncement as to who is a woman or who is not; who has a valid claim for transition or who does not. He dealt strictly with observed behaviour and then a process of categorisation reflecting the severity of a condition.

Once you put people into categories, however, that’s where the fun begins.

The type V and VI looked down on the type IV and of course everyone looked down on the poor crossdressers.

This is human nature. The well educated look down on the less educated; the rich look down on the less rich and so on.

I must state categorically however that I myself already have all the rights I need since I am using a technique to manage my disphoria that is not illegal (at least not yet).

But what about those people who decide to take hormones but no bottom surgery? What about those people who want no hormone treatments but just desire to dress and behave as the gender they feel most comfortable presenting as?

I don’t have a problem with letting these people be. It’s actually very simple and actually very Christian on our part to just let them be. They form part of the fabric of society and have done so since humans have been populating this planet.

Since I have come to terms with my own disphoria, I have found a new internal peace that has allowed me to love myself and others more.

Once you get to that place you realize that you have nothing to fear.

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  1. I agree with mostly everything you have said in this post up to and including this following quote. "But the gender politics born out of the earnest attempts to gain recognition for transgender people do not originate in the serious research; they were started by the human beings who were themselves being diagnosed."

    However, from that point on you begin to fall into the very ethnocentric fallacy that you yourself have noted. Not all "type V and VI looked down on the type IV and of course everyone looked down on the poor crossdressers." This is a gross over-generalization based I believe on your own feelings of shame, guilt and self-victimization, so common within the TG culture.

    I also agree with your notion of "live and let live". However, here is where your TG culture has astray. While you are content to live with the norms and custom of our current societal norms, the leadership of the TG movement, and consequently most of their supporters and acolytes, do not subscribe to that most reasonable of philosophies. They insist on pushing those cultural and should consequently expect some push-back.

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  2. Oh and I dont feel guilt nor do I feel like a victim. In fact far from it. I have no reason to.

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  3. whose TG culture are you refering to mine? I belong to the Spanis/Canadian culture last time I checked.

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  4. Right. Which is why we manage to engage in semi-intelligent conversation, at least some of the time. As for your guilt and shame, I am glad that you are finally moving beyond that.

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  5. Hi Joanna,

    Great blog today. I couldn't agree more. I wouldn't change a thing.

    Lindsay

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  6. "What about those people who want no hormone treatments but just desire to dress and behave as the gender they feel most comfortable presenting as?"

    Read: People who cross dress. IE: transvestites

    I don’t have a problem with letting these people be. It’s actually very simple and actually very Christian on our part to just let them be. " ~Jo

    Of course you have no problem with "these people", because you are talking about yourself.



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  7. AQV you got a new identity?? did you figure this out all by yourself?? ha ha ha....

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  10. You are truly a classless coward. As you sow, so shall reap.

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