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Repeating myself...

I have been reading the entries I have made over the last few months and, aside from pointing to Jamie Veale's work and quoting the great work being done by Anne Vitale, I feel like I have said it all and I am just repeating myself.

I am therefore going into a slow burn with this blog.

N pointed out to me that I am just rehashing the same message and to be frank writing about my daily life experiences just does not interest me at all. This is also one of the reasons the male me is not on Facebook.

Going forward, I will only post things that really add to the discourse on the topic of gender dysphoria.

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  1. We will miss your input. I know that you have done lots of deep thinking and analysis but sometimes your simple observations of the reactions you and others have to your simply being out and about are the most telling.
    I hope that you do keep your blog at lease semi active.
    Pat

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  2. Joanna,

    Just found your blog, and there is much of interest here. I certainly will be spending some time reading, and will be following any future additions closely! However, let me echo Pat's thought: namely, that you keep your blog somewhat active.

    If not, we will definitely miss your presence!

    Mandy

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  3. Thanks to you both and by no means is it dead. I just don't want to sound like a broken record or preachy....

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