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going it alone

Callie’s latest headline posting on T-Central got me thinking.

The precarious fusion between the different factions of LGBT community may seem, at first glance, to be a convenient marriage but it isn’t really. The most glaring aspect is of course that the first three letters of that acronym deal with sexual orientation while the last one deals exclusively with gender identity; which is a pivotally important difference.

I do understand historically why the union exists however.

The stonewall riots of the 1960’s were led, in part, by transgendered people and in the common fight for inclusion and recognition of a discriminated minority there seemed to be a convergence of purpose there.

Things are different today.

Gays and lesbians have attained a greater degree of recognition and legal protection and are less visually offensive to the public. After all, you can’t pick out a gay person in a crowd; they don’t necessarily dress or look differently than everyone else. The same cannot always be said of the transgendered person.

We have a different battle for recognition.

One of the problems for the transgender community has been its lack of unity and it’s been far too busy infighting and trying to play the game of one-upmanship. Transsexuals look down on the transgender and she males who look down on the crossdresser.

It’s a shame really because much of this is not about labels but about the general concept of gender dysphoria.

Newly transitioned women wanted to go stealth and disown their past. They just wanted to live their lives as normal women and you couldn’t blame them.

Crossdressers were busy hiding from society’s stares and even from their own families. They also could not be blamed.

Ostensibly however, everyone was running away.

Transitioned women like Janet Mock and Laverne Cox are starting to change that and they are embracing the umbrella that unites us. They understand that what relates us all is the incongruity that resides in our brains and makes us question our gender identity. Whether you transition or not is irrelevant; the very fact that you have spent any significant amount of your life questioning your gender identity or do not fit into the binary should be enough.

I agree with them.

So while the gay and lesbian communities do not ponder this hierarchy of legitimacy, the transgendered community has been mired in mudslinging as to who has a greater claim to a truer identity.

Well I am not a woman but I consider myself transgendered and that very fact unites many if not most of us.

It is probably time to unhitch the wagons and go on our own journey for public acceptance and legitimacy. I think the time may have come.


  1. Well said! Your point, hopefully, will not be glossed over or dismissed or discounted then down-played.

  2. We are all individual people and we are entitled to individual respect and dignity. When speaking of those who are outside or even questioning the gender binary the concept of "one size fits all" is as much of a misnomer as when the phase is applied to pantyhose.
    Good post.

  3. I don't have a problem with transgendered being part of the LGBT. We're all a sexually discriminated minority and there is added safety and support that we can supply each other. Until you get to yourself every relationship you have is some sort of umbrella. Aren't the L, G, B and T just smaller umbrellas underneath LGBT. Doesn't the T break into it's own smaller umbrella groups? We can always pick and chose which ones we personally want to support or reject.

  4. We don't really have the same fight Lindsay. Sexual orientation is more a private issue which does not affect workplace visibility for example. Transgender people experience much more bias and discrimination because they stand out much more and present more of a challenge to people's level of acceptance. We are combining apples with oranges really

  5. I think we're going through the same things the LG's went through 20 to 30 years ago. We can learn a lot from their experiences. I think we have a lot more in common with them than with cis-heterosexuals. There are a lot of parallels with what we are experiencing now with what they experienced back then.


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