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equality for all

I heard on the radio today about an interesting social experiment. They took a young and beautiful young woman and dressed her provocatively in a public setting. Then the visual and verbal responses of other women were recorded.

In almost every single case, the other women viewed her negatively essentially considering her competition. This reaction was particularly evident in the same age group as the test woman.

The researchers behind the study have theorized that it is women who control the doling out of sex and use it as a way to exert some degree of control over men. When another woman breaks the rules and oversteps her boundaries, they let her know it in no uncertain terms.

Seems logical I suppose considering that men spend more active time seeking sex and women can deny or grant them their wish. It is one way to exert power albeit not in the right way.

But why do some women do this to each other? I would argue that it's learned behaviour.

We certainly know that women are overly sexualised in our society. Just look at the images on print and broadcast media for confirmation. Women are also exploited for sex work and marginalized in many countries including in North America. The last thing I want for my own daughter is to live in a society where she is seen as inferior because of her gender. We of all people should appreciate that more than most.

I grew up with these images myself and am trying to actively work against all stereotyping that I was spoon fed over my lifetime. This one remains a tenacious one and in fact contributes to our marginalization as transgendered people.

The more positively women are seen in society the more our identities will have validity and dignity. Let's strive for true equality for all.


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