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missed my routine

I was away on business for a couple of days and I got a frantic email from my neighbour regarding my car. The city of Montreal had been doing some work in front of my domicile and had somehow arranged to have a large tree branch fall directly on top of it and crack the windshield plus cause a couple of dents on the hood.

This is the same car which has to be handed back to Volkswagen since my 4 year lease is up. Needless to say I was not amused.

So I ended up spending a good chunk of the day sorting this mess up but also got considerable time in as Joanna after 2 solid days away without being able to dress.

It’s funny how accustomed I’ve become to having that be a part of my life and when I can’t I really miss it quite a lot.

I know that many of you don’t dress every day while for some of you it’s just part of your normal life because you have transitioned. I seem to be in that in between zone somewhere and it’s just developed over time to be my routine.

Nothing wrong with having a routine if it works for you and this one definitely does for me.


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  1. It is important to me to have some contact with my femme side on a regular basis either through dressing completed (whether I get out of the house or not), partially dressing around the house, underdressing or simply spending time with the blogs on line.
    Pat

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