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plus ca change.....

I’ve pushed a proverbial reset button and have given this place a fresh new coat of white paint.

I will be 52 years old this fall and I am in partial overhaul mode once again but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. I have been doing a number of resets over the last seven years so why not one more.

It’s always interesting to look back and analyse the thought processes that you went through at different stages of your life. Things that were sacrosanct are perhaps less so today and what you were willing to live with then does not work as well for you now.

If there is one constant in life it’s change.

I have my work to fall back on and my son’s needs are still there. My daughter (freshly turned 16)continues her journey towards independence and she is ungluing herself from her mother and I which is not a bad thing. Both of them need to become more autonomous after being raised in a style that differs much from the one my parents used.

During my growing years we spent time outside and our parents called us in for supper or when it became dark. They assumed we were all right playing with our friends for hours. Sometimes things happened but mostly they didn’t and somehow we survived.

This is the era of bicycle helmets and safety standards but also the era of texting behind the wheel and of instant social media gratification. I heard the story on the news last night about the woman who stole a very unique looking dress from a store and having her identity discovered after she foolishly posted a new profile picture of herself wearing her newly pilfered item of clothing. The police came knocking on her door only hours later. It seems the shop owner had simply put out the social media equivalent of an all points bulletin and it paid off for him. Someone had recognized the dress and snitched.

I myself am not on Facebook or twitter or Instagram and that’s fine by me. I just had nothing meaningful to post and found the banality I saw from others to be sometimes irritating. I also did not want the pressure of keeping my page active so that people thought I was still alive by taking a snapshot of my lunch or posting what concert I was attending at that very moment.

This blog will have to suffice for now.

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