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I'm surprised sometimes by transgender people who buy into Autogynephilia theory but I have a theory as to why.

It may be more convenient and reassuring to them that they have a fetish than gender dysphoria. However they should realize that the theory is being used to marginalize people. It's being used by HBS extremists, radical feminists and by religious extreme groups to paint them as perverted men.

But whether you like it or not if your gender confusion goes back to very early childhood then you don't have a fetish. Most fetishists (and I've read a number of testimonials now) start around the age of puberty and the advent of sexualisation.

The problem for the dysphoric is that the beginning of puberty also brings the conflict of attraction to women combined with their already strong association with their own feminine nature. That mixture confuses them and makes them feel they need to be cured. This happens if the boy is heterosexual.

If the young boy discovers he has homosexual tendencies and probably fairly effeminate, then he will have an easier time aligning his dysphoria with his sexual orientation. This individual will transition early in life and move into stealth living.

The heterosexual dysphoric is best served by dissasociating themselves from AGP theory because his condition is being used to discriminate against him and roll him up with other fetishists who do not suffer in the least from dysphoria. Make no mistake in that they are not the same animal.

If the dysphoric does not transition he is stuck with this condition for life whereas I believe that a fetish may possibly be curbed to some degree or even eliminated.

Dysphorics won't be so lucky.

You can easily tell the difference between fetishists and dysphorics by observing their behavior. Whereas the fetishist will play up the sexuality and eroticism the dysphoric will try to be as close to a woman as possible and blend into the world. Fetishists will cling to sexually charged TG fiction whereas typically dysphorics will not. A fetishist will also cling strongly to his male identity.

So it does disappoint me when I see gender dysphorics associate themselves with the work of Blanchard because this was the man approving genital reassignment surgery for people he considered perverted males. Now that is an odd contradiction if I ever saw one.


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