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switch hitter no more

Well Andre Pejic has finally made the move to become Andreja.

I suppose it was not unexpected because someone that feminine had to eventually make a decision and its not an easy thing to exist between both binaries. At 22 years of age she has had the GRS surgery to fully complete her transformation; and just as well because she barely passed for a male even when she tried.

What I did like about Andrej is how comfortable he was in his own skin and how much that challenged those people who felt uncomfortable with a human being who dared to challenge gender norms. I chuckled every time he was interviewed or made a catwalk appearance and showed people the strength of his resolve.

Of course in the background there was a gender conflicted individual searching for a final identity and Andrej was really more woman than man; I would venture to say much more. But during that brief time in the spotlight as a switch hitter she had me wondering how far she could carry living as a gender variant celebrity.

A story like hers is very much one of our time. The last time something like this happened it was the early 1960's and April Ashley was being infamously outed after becoming an haute couture runway sensation. She had hoped to stay stealth but never managed to. Needless to say, she would never have been permitted to model women’s clothes as a male bodied person during her era.

But we have come a long way since then and the barriers that were there for April Ashley were not there for Andrej Pejic. For that, many transgendered people can be a little bit grateful.


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