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they will always be among us

In my Internet travels I have come across a horrid and insulting website called gendertrender. It is written by a transphobic and hateful lesbian who clearly has issues. But what it brings home to me once again is how the small minded of this world feel they have the right to pronounce themselves on a condition that they do not have and politicize it.

There is no shortage of these sites but I single this one out as an example.

So whether it's the well meaning religious right wing nut jobs or the feminist extremists, some human beings consistently are out to prove that they can reach previously unreached levels of stupidity.

Gender dysphoria is a real condition and if you have it you must deal with it. Hard enough as that already is, it's comforting to know that we can always count on politically motivated ignoramouses to only make things worse.

You can't change society but you can change yourself and strength your insides. My mother told me when I was growing up that life was difficult and full of challenges and she was right. She helped teach me to strengthen myself and prepare for all kinds of situations and people.

I now tell my children the very same thing and try and help build the psychological armor they will need to deal with those who would gloat over their failures.

We can't always help the willfully ignorant but we can strengthen our own minds and souls to help deal with them or preferably ignore them all together. The fringe will always be among us.

They do however sometimes represent the hidden face of what people talk about behind closed doors. Just like racism can have both a public and private face so can this issue.

Politics don't interest me but intelligence or, in this case, lack of it tends to draw my attention.


  1. J -

    I have stumbled into this type of Lesbian on my blog as well. There is not much one can do, save to be rational and not let one's emotions be disturbing. Some people will be open to rational discussions, and others will not be open. Either way, we lose when we lose our cool.


  2. You are correct Marian. I am not angry but just being .mindful about how much education remains and how bad it actually is out there. Thank you for your feedback!


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