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more than meets the eye

I find it fascinating that the satisfaction rates for GRS among gynephilic transsexuals parallels those of androphilic ones.

If we forget for a moment Ray Blanchard’s two typology model of Autogynephilic and Homosexual, we see that at the end of the process all transsexuals eventually arrive at the same destination. I cannot understand why however.

If the AGP model of love of self as woman fetishist is correct then these people should not theoretically have a high GRS satisfaction rate; the reason? They are not women and should therefore at some point exhibit regret and revert to being males. After all if your only driver for transsexual surgery is eroticism then why not be happy by simply crossdressing and masturbating?

But if we focus just on sexual orientation could this be the main factor that distinguishes late transitioning gynephilics and early transitioning androphilics? I have written about this before in my blog.

By the age of 12 most children know their sexual leanings lie. They are either attracted to members of their own sex or to members of the opposite sex. If we add gender dysphoria to the mix we have an individual who is also gender conflicted and is more likely to transition early if they are attracted to their own sex. These children are typically more effeminate than average and have less reason to combat their gender dysphoria.

Conversely, heterosexual dysphorics will fight tooth and nail to defeat their gender confusion by marrying women and conceiving children; often being able to do so only by imagining they are women during intercourse. By middle age their proverbial bell goes off and they must transition or face psychological paralysis. In other words they hit the wall.

However Ray Blanchard’s model focuses on transition due to love of self as woman versus transition due to love of attracting heterosexual male partners. The origin and reason for the transition is left unexplained because of the absence of genetic or brain evidence. Therefore, you are either a fetishist or a homosexual with an appetite for greater variety of partners.

Why did Blanchard approve these surgeries? Because they help the patient.

Why do they help the patient? We have no idea.

Labelling people but then leaving the impetus for the surgery unexplained is not really science. You can always accuse these people of being mentally ill but the evidence suggests that they are lucid and in many cases score several points higher in IQ than the average person.

There is still a great mystery to be solved here and much more remains to be explained than meets the eye.


Ray Blanchard

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