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a sign of the times

Maybe you have them where you live: sale stands where they sell hand creams or cosmetics operated by young men and/or women. They petition people walking past them to stop and try their product with the promise that it is the best around and are often strategically placed in shopping malls in the highest traffic areas.

A few years ago I would walk past them dressed as a woman and I would be more often than not deliberately ignored. I never knew if it was my inability to pass, my scared demeanour or a combination of both.

Well, today is a different story and I am as petitioned to stop and try their product as any woman would and I see this as another barometer of my increased ability to blend in and pass in public. Whether I am seen as a comfortable crossdresser, transsexual woman or genetic woman it matters not one whit.


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  1. Perhaps the term you are looking for is 'kiosk'.
    I suspect that your increased comfort and interactions with the kiosk people has a bit to do with your increased confidence. It may also be that T folks, whether perceived as a cross dresser, transexual, or some other blend of gender fluidity are now more common and easily accepted by the public at large.
    Or it may just be that in these economic times any sale is a good sale.
    Pat

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