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We may rapidly be approaching transgender overexposure. It’s in the news, on social media and more and more people seem to be claiming the spotlight to announce their intent to transition.

Take fighting promoter Frank Maloney who announced recently of his intent to start living as a woman named Kellie at 60 years of age but then shows up on the UK version of Big Brother. Don’t get me wrong in that I am happy for her but I can’t help but feel that this appearance on a low brow program such as this only fuels the idea in some people’s minds that this whole transgender thing isn’t very dignified; only crazy people and mad artists need apply.

We have seen transitions in all walks of life and education levels and indeed, gender dysphoria does not discriminate in who it touches but I would like to hope that those who live in the public eye would be aware of the responsibility that they carry. They need to be seen in the best possible light to illustrate that we are as normal and balanced as the next person. We just happen to have a condition we need to deal with.

As much as N sympathizes with this whole issue she has mentioned to me that having so many Huffington Post stories on transgender topics makes her want to roll her eyes. I can’t say that I blame her too much although at the same time I realize that educating the public can be a double edged sword.

By exposing an issue this much you sometimes allow all of the little crevices and imperfections to show through.


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  1. I tend to agree that most of the publicity does focus on the more newsworthy/shocking components but in some ways that also serves to advance the cause.
    The more that the general public sees or hears or learns of someone dealing with gender issues the less 'out of the ordinary' a man in a dress may seem to them.
    Over time there has been a growing acceptance of LGBT people. Things are still evolving. What concerns me as a plain, ordinary guy who likes to dress and present as a woman is that to a large measure simple cross dressers are not out in the open and are not understood. Somehow it has become accepted that if someone has such gender conflicts that they have to seek surgery to transition that is OK but somone's whose gender issues can be sated with only part time dressing is someone who may not need the dressing outlet at all.
    Pat

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  2. Pat I think the problem lies with the crossdressers themselves who think they have to hide from the public eye. I know you are not one of them and your dressing does not represent a gender conflict for you. If there were more like you out there the world would see just how commonplace this activity is. Not everyone has severe gender dyasphoria and needs to transition.

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  3. ......and everyone knows a crossdresser but they do not let themselves be known which is a shame.

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