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the next frontier

Jack Molay’s survey of over 1,100 people which he conducted recently over at his site Crossdreamers.com is yielding some very interesting results.

One finding is that only 22% of the respondents self identify as feeling fully male, with the rest either identifying as female, both genders, neither gender or sometimes male and sometimes female. This result helps dispel the tired myth about the happy crossdresser content with his male identity while playing dress up. The other important finding is that 54% of the respondents suffer medium to severe gender dysphoria with only 26% saying it does not bother them too much.

Jack was kind enough to send me the preliminary results and the rest of the survey will prove to be even more transparent in showing that gender dysphoria is very much a graded phenomenon and that gender self identification varies greatly across a wide spectrum.

Why is this not surprising? Because we are human beings, we are complex and because topics dealing with the mind are highly subjective. We are dealing with emotion and feeling and this is difficult to quantify using scientific rigour.

The myth that the human race is made up of two perfectly cast and clearly distinct binaries is slowly being dismantled. The truth is that most people fall somewhere in between but due to our fear of being seen not to conform, we subscribe to a set of standards that are presented to us in order to avoid ridicule. If left entirely to our own devices, you would see a much more varied display of gender in the world.

The next frontier is going to be the liberation of gender and its expression and the little steps we are now seeing towards educating and exposing the public to the transgender condition will prove to be instrumental in helping to complete this task.


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