Being out in the open has benefited me much more than it has them. Their lives have not changed for the better or for the worse while mine has decidedly taken a turn for the better.
For those of you still struggling with the impacts that your condition has on others I would beseech you to take some initiatives to make your case known. When my pot threatened to boil over, going into a gender clinic offered me an oasis where I could have my thinking questioned by someone else; someone who did not harbour the same prejudices and preconceived notions I held about my situation. The ideas I held were questioned and inspected and during that process I learnt much about myself.
We tend to think we are to blame for our feelings and what we require is fortitude and self control but that does not work. I am one of the most controlled people I know and my life is a testament of will and discipline and yet I could not defeat my dysphoria. Instead I needed to befriend it and learn to understand it without necessarily caving in to its demands.
As I posted here yesterday, the WPATH standards recommend whatever method works for you as a transgendered person. The trick is to have those methods fit within the constraints of your family and your work environment. This is by no means an easy thing and if it were there would have been no need for me to have started this blog. I started this blog because this process is very hard.
I can’t promise you that your path will be easy either but at a certain point in time you may simply run out of gas and no longer care about being discovered.
One eventually gets tired of hiding in plain sight.