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A new visibility

There has been an explosion in the number of kids and parents seeking counseling for transgender issues recently. As the reality of this condition continues to sink into the public psyche as something real and tangible, people who suffer gender dysphoria are speaking out in larger numbers. This is hardly surprising because in the past going to your parents would have meant being taken to a priest or counselor and told you were mentally ill.

Those of us who grew up during those years have first hand experience.

Now with the diagnostic community and legions of transgender people serving as protectors and advocates for others seeking answers, there is a growing support network that is being established.

While it may appear to the uninitiated that there is an epidemic afoot what we are actually seeing is the reality that always lay beneath the surface but dare not emerge. The people with the most to lose were those in established families with strong religious principles who saw this as a sexual deviance that needed to be eliminated. The ones who did brave trying to be themselves suffered the stares and ridicule of a society too ill prepared to accept them.

But with new found credibility has come the courage of people who might not have come forward otherwise. We now see the doctors, lawyers and engineers with established reputations as upstanding citizens coming out and being who they are. Whether they transition or not is less important than the demonstration that gender identity is more fluid than we have been allowed to express in our repressed western societies.

Yes the times they are a' changin'




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