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Happy Father's Day

As I write this entry I am sitting having a coffee dressed like a woman. It is a Sunday morning and at 8 AM I will be attending mass as Joanna and having a coffee with my friend Janet who does not even have Internet or own a computer.

It is an odd feeling to think that it's father's day today and that I am able to live in this odd way. It is a lifestyle that I never envisioned needing to adopt. But here I am.

My seventeen year old daughter is off with a group of friends camping and my son won't be up for many hours. At fifteen years of age he can sleep far more than I and is showing no signs of being the early bird I have always been.

They are both at an age where their attention focuses inward as they try to establish an identity for themselves in this very strange world of ours. I won't be offended if they forget to text or call as they will begin to come out of their teen angst in a few short years.

So I say happy father's day to all those transitioned and not whose life has taken a turn they had not expected. Life is challenging in many ways and this is just one of them. We need to count our blessings and be happy we have our mental and physical health for this counts above all.

Last week I looked at a photo of a family that existed about 13 years ago. That family didn't know what lay ahead and I was as surprised as they eventually were at the turn of events. All of us stared out at the camera which captured a moment in a life which I now have trouble relating to even if I recall the events that took place.


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  1. Some things never change! Or so it would seem, some things are just late. Thank you from a used to be "conventional" father.

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  2. Some sweet words from my grown-up kids when told about my transition: " You will always be our Dad!"
    Thank you and Happy Fathers' Day to you Joanna!

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  3. Thank you Billie and Halle. Halle I am very glad for you as I know the angst you went through to get where you are!

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  4. It lovely to see you posting again Joanna, missed you, all the best!
    Abigale xoxo

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