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The grand reveal

Seeing Caitlyn Jenner on the cover of Vanity Fair really hit home for me.

Although I am 12 years younger than Jenner, we both come from the same generation that predated the internet. Back then we lived in the dark and suffered in silence in thinking we were the only people in the world who doubted their gender identity. We would surreptitiously look up books in the library trying to understand what was wrong with us and why we were such freaks of nature.

Now at 65 years of age, she is finally having her coming out party.

No doubt that Caitlyn’s grand reveal will be a boost to the transgender community if for no other reason than to put the issue of gender dysphoria even more on the public radar. Kids who grew up watching Jenner on the Kardashian reality series (which I confess to never having viewed) now can witness a media figure undergo a very public gender role transition.

Much to her credit, she presented herself to the world with glamour and style. She looks like a woman at ease with her body and happy with herself probably for the first time in her life. Seeing her on the cover jars me into the realization that the world has become so much smaller and more transparent than the one I knew growing up.

We had to hide from the world and pretend the feelings we had were hallucinations of a delusional mind. In retrospect we know better but during those times it was hard.

I suppose it’s easy when you have money to do what she is doing; other transgender people are far less lucky. Her kids are grown and no longer depend on her and she has waited all this time presumably for their benefit. We all want to do right by the families who didn’t ask to have a father with a deep dark secret. I applaud her fortitude for having proceeded in this way.

Enduring the heckling of reporters and derision from media spectators hungry for public fails, this might be her moment of triumph to put those detractors in their place.

Here’s hoping that she proves to be another worthy role model and joins others who have already gone before her.


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  1. Those "hallucinations of a delusional mind" were so hard weren't they? I just thought I was insane for so long.

    She is older than I by three years??? Good for Caitlyn!

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  2. Indeed they were Halle. I just put my mind into other things and pretended it wasn't there.

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