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Out from the shadows

Kristen Beck and Caitlyn Jenner through their notoriety are showing us a different side of being transgender. They both came out in public and transitioned before our very eyes. Now they actively trying to serve as role models for all the different generations of transgendered people who fear being seen in public or being shunned by their families for simply being who they are.

In the past transgendered people would either live in the closet or hurry up and physically transition so they could blend into society. Those were the only options available back then.

Today even androphilic transwomen like Andreja Pejic and Janet Mock are transitioning publicly and embracing their nature instead of being ashamed of it. They want everyone to know that they weren’t born as genetic females and they are proud of the journey they have chosen for themselves.

This new way of seeing transgendered people has been hard fought and it will continue to tread new ground through public education, legislation and court battles. It will embolden those who up until now have lived in the shadows ashamed, scared and paralysed with fear due to fear of rejection.

I must admit that I never thought that this would happen in my lifetime and even as I know that we are not where we should be, my faith in the ability of most decent people to learn and adapt has been elevated to a new level.

Yes the haters and detractors will always be with us but the door to a brave new world has been opened and there is no going back.



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