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an interesting series

There is a series of videos on YouTube by Transline Hollywood that I find interesting. They focus on specific issues facing transgender people and is hosted by a genetic woman who, most of the time, interviews Suzanne - a transgender male to female who lives part time as a woman.

One particular video which caught my attention dealt with the subject of transgender dating. The guest on that segment was a transitioned woman named Leigh who looked to be in her late fifties. In her previous life she had been living as a gay man.

If you watch the video you will see Leigh explain that she transitioned in her early fifties which is somewhat unusual for an androphilic transgender woman. She states in the video knew she felt she was a female very early on and told her parents but after being counselled against it by a therapist, she decided to continue living her life as a man.

Contrast Leigh with Suzanne who was married twice to women who knew about her transgender nature.

Leigh is now married to a man and living as the woman she always felt she was. She is an example of how we can be talked out of things by a therapist who may or may know how to deal with transgender individuals. Of course the opposite can also happen in that we can be talked into entering into a transition process that may ultimately not be for us.

I find the series enlightens and deals with the topic in a light but informative fashion and can serve to educate people who may know little to nothing about the subject. Here is a link to the video....


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pT96jlClJ8









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  1. Thanks so much Joanna! What a great team of ladies, giving the straight goods, especially for those of us who are mature and need to remember we aren't teenagers, even though we feel that way.

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