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A lot of people out there in cyberspace are commenting about how fed up they are of reading stories about the transgender. I suppose I can understand but at the same time I am disheartened at the intensity of the antipathy expressed.

To those who are so fatigued I apologise if you find us tedious.

However I and a host of others were fed up of hiding. I think those complainers will have to tolerate our stories for just a little longer because we are now witnessing the next great social revolution and it was long overdue.

As a long misunderstood and discriminated against group, coming out into the daylight could not come soon enough. Doing it in this dramatic and whirlwind fashion was maybe a bit much for some but that is sometimes the price of social progress.

Those who don't want to read about us don't have to. Maybe just keep your prejudice and ill will to yourselves?


  1. People always have the right and ability to change the channel or pick up something different to read. If they care to read or watch a bit they may pick up some useful information or they may just come away confused. To me it seems like most of the focus is on the TS end of the TG spectrum and while any form of education is helpful and in the end can lead to more tolerance for more people it would be nice to see a little more information about the great diversity that exists in the T world.

  2. they have the right to change the channel but it seems they don't. They prefer leaving nasty messages on websites where articles and stories are printed. Many are trolls but a whole other bunch are people with a lot of anger. I agree that any form of education is good. Better than nothing.

  3. Hey, it's not as if there aren't enough video clips of cute kittens on the internet to keep them occupied if they don't want to read about us. Personally I'm sick to the back teeth about endless stuff on 1Direction, Rita Ora or The Voice. But that's my choice. I can just stay away from it or flick the page.
    But there is a serious point in that quite a lot of blogs have the same despairing tone which treat the internet as a form of confessional public therapy (and yes, I can probably be accused of this as well), and while it may or may not be helpful, it's probably better than bottling it up. I know I'm finding it good to finally be able to talk.


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