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the end of the war

Judging by the younger generation, if there was ever a war between androphiic and gynephilic gender dysphorics, it now appears to be over.

To use some older terminology, some activist androphilic transsexuals had invented a condition known as Harry Benjamin Syndrome (HBS) in order to gain legitimacy as women while at the same time distinguishing themselves from transvestites. The idea being that they were suffering from a birth defect in need of correction while transvestites were suffering from sexual perversion. This syndrome was of course invented after Harry Benjamin’s passing since the good doctor never proposed any such thing.

In fact it should be noted that Benjamin received support and assistance in the development of his theories from Virginia Prince; someone who was a self declared transgenderist and who transitioned later in life.

With this older generation now slowly disappearing we are seeing that the torch has not been passed on to the subsequent ones. Today’s transgender women are coming from both orientations and we see no conflicts between them. We are also seeing that an improving tolerance for gender variance is allowing for increased options for the treatment of gender dysphoria ranging from regular cross gender expression to surgical and hormonal intervention.

As we loosen our grip on the rigid binary we are seeing the scale that Benjamin proposed actually become more visible. Those on the lower scale are less afraid to be seen in the light of day while those on the higher end continue to proceed as they must only this time without the added pressure (or in some cases the desired possibility) of transitioning in stealth.



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