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two opposing groups argue along same lines

“Radical feminists reject the notion of a “female brain.” They believe that if women think and act differently from men it’s because society forces them to, requiring them to be sexually attractive, nurturing, and deferential. In the words of Lierre Keith, a speaker at Radfems Respond, femininity is “ritualized submission.””

This is a quote from a recent New Yorker article called “What is a Woman” which chronicles the battle between radical feminists and transgender women. Well it’s maybe not a battle but more of a dispute.

The natural differences between male and females have been duly noted in many scientific studies which have measured distinct brain patterns linked to behavior and to the creation of particular skill sets in each gender.

The issue of masculinity and femininity is more up for grabs however. Here we are in murkier waters and we don't know to what extent this is innate in people. I believe its part biology and part socialization.

What is interesting to note here is that radical feminists are using the same type of argument as transgender women. They say ignore biology and focus on how we are socialized. Transgender women say ignore biology and trust us when we say that we are women.

The biological component seems to be inconclusive in both acclamations.

So is there merit to simply going by feel? Yes because people need to feel right in their own skin. In this case emotion trumps facts. The problem is that the radfems want to deny rights whereas transgender women simply want to acquire them.

In the end I'd like to believe that no matter the wrapping, we're all just human beings looking for love and dignity.



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