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a unified theory of gender

If you haven’t read Felix Conrad’s very well thought analysis of the transgender condition you should. He uses very logical step by step philosophical reasoning that is hard to ignore and basically involves accepting the notion that (for some people) there is such a thing as possessing a gender core that diverges from your biological birth sex.

It’s a fascinating read and you need to read all 4 parts!

Felix believes in a unified gender theory as I do. Nature does not always produce an individual whose core gender identity is aligned with their birth sex and these children are often conditioned to fit in by well-meaning parents and teachers. In the end, however, they are who they are inside. Some rebel early and some try to conform but their gender core does not budge one iota.

Transgender people therefore need to do to what they must to respect and celebrate their own sense of internal gender which can include but not necessarily lead to transition.

The link to Felix’s well written essay can be found here.


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  1. Joanna, when I wrote about this on my own blog, Felix Conrad responded by distancing himself from the theory:

    "...you should know that although we worked on the ideas together, Unified transgender Theory was not written by me [FC] but by a girl called Electra L. It is really a kind of fundamentalist transgender philosophy which I would subscribe to politically but not theoretically."

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  2. Thanks for the heads up Dabrela. I understood that Electra to be Felix's alter ego or anima if you will. Its a good diatribe and makes a lot of sense even if nothing is proveable at this stage. Thank you for comnenting!

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