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Its not about the plumbing

Germaine Greer's comment about "removing your penis does not make you a woman" got me thinking about the case of David Reimer. David was not transgender but he didn't have a penis (it was severed in a botched circumcision) and was raised a girl from day one at the urging of John Money. David didn't know about this error until he was well into his teens and his parents were assured by Dr. Money that he would grow up to be a normal and well adjusted girl.

In the end, no amount of convincing or cajoling could turn David into a normal girl because his brain gender was that of a male. As soon as he discovered what happened to him he began living his life according to his true gender identity. He unfortunately ended his own life at the tender age of 38.

David's gender identity resided in his brain and not in his genitals.

Why then is it so hard for some to believe that for people who are transgender, this identity might be fully or partially misaligned with birth sex? they are certainly as insistent as David Reimer was.

Here is a video that I would like all those black and white thinkers to see. It features a nice family who accepts their transgender daughter. They believe her and love her and also would like to think that she would be accepted by the faith community that she grew up in.

I challenge those who think this is a simple and clear cut issue to tell me that this girl is mentally ill and she requires healing.


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