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a creature of habit

I am a creature of habit and like my routine. N will confirm that.

I get home around 3:30 pm (since I start work at 6:00 AM – my choice) which leaves me with some Joanna time in the afternoon of every weekday. I will change and do my makeup within 15 minutes and be out the door before 4 pm.

I drive far less than I used to and now drive a short distance to the subway and ride that into the city center most of the time. If I drove I would end up in gridlock anyway.

On an average weeknight I am home by 6 pm at the latest and have my dinner.

My daughter is with me 2 nights a week now but that routine does not change because she is there. We talk through her closed door if we need to as I apply my makeup. I don’t hide from her but then her door would typically be closed regardless.

If I had to scale back my outing time I would be hard pressed to do so but then when I didn’t do this every day the evening outing lasted considerably longer. This is preferable and spreads out Joanna time evenly over the week.

I had my first overnight trip as a woman in Ottawa a couple of months ago and it was nice. Nothing has changed however and I still don’t need or want to be a woman full time.

I just want to be me.


  1. Thankyou for that little window on your life Joanna.
    Direct and moving.
    All the best


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