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empowering everyone

The fact is that reaction to transgender people in society is not consummate with their representation in number. When you think about it there is little sense in the reaction of some people given that we are talking about 1 to 3% of the population.

The reason some of the feedback is so negative is that trans people challenge what it means to be a man or a woman which for some is an affront to everything they thought they knew about sex and gender. If you happened to have been brought up in a less than tolerant household then you are that much more likely to have strong negative feelings about the issue.

When I see the attitudes of the young today, it amazes me. They have little trouble with gender variant people whether they transition or not. This has liberated them to a great degree and removed the pressure among them in needing to adhere to specific ways of dressing or behaving.

It is in fact the older people who are having the most trouble adapting since they were brought up in an immovable and unyielding binary model which had little room for malleability. Whatever variances were out there needed to be hidden away and kept inside the privacy of people’s homes which only added to the impression that they were sick or perverted.

It will take another generation to wipe out all traces of resistance and since gender variance isn’t something you catch but instead something you are born with, people will realize that there is little to fear.

If anything letting people be themselves will only empower everyone and lead to a better and more tolerant society.




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