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living honestly

I am living proof that you can remake your life and come out better on the other side.

Often we are afraid to live honestly and openly and in my case it took someone else to make the first move: namely my ex-ex spouse.

My neighbours see me come and go in both modes and I don't really mind. There is an older couple I rarely see but I often park in front of their place. My next door neighbours (who I was concerned would be the least receptive) were being avoided so I began this habit of making sure I was clear of them. My car was no exception and ended up most often parked a little north of my front door.

I had never spoken to this lady but when our paths crossed the other day she stopped and looked at me for a second. Since I was dressed as Joanna I figured she would inquire about my odd lifestyle.

She said "can I ask you something?"

I said "sure" bracing for a lesson in transgender 101.

"Why do you not park directly in front of your condo?"

I laughed out loud inside my psyche and responded in a slightly comical tone:

"I like the little extra exercise it gives me"

She laughed and we both smiled at each other.

She went inside and I entered my car and I continued laughing to myself as I drove away.


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