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lost in ideology

Who cares if gender reassignment surgery doesn't turn you into a woman?

We already knew that.

What it does is allow people with extreme gender dysphoria to function and lead a normal life. If at the end of the process we call this person a transgender woman then what difference does that make? If that person is now happy and well adjusted and they are no longer suicidal have we not done a good thing?

All of these activists on both sides have it wrong. Of course you don't change someone's DNA with this process but conversely gender dysphoria is real and must be addressed; and there is nothing wrong with keeping the transgender moniker regardless of what your genitals look like.

Gernaine Greer as well as others get caught up in technicalities while continuing to misunderstand the consequences for some of not acting. As we can see, today's transgender women no longer hide from their past and proudly educate the public about it. Why can't we just let them be?

Those who continue to attack the so-called transgender agenda fail to understand that this is not a movement to convert people into others like them. Its a movement to recognize people who, through no fault of their own, were born different.

No matter which way the detractors spin their own truth, untreated gender dysphoria will continue to claim the lives of some people. Failing to recognize that reality may buy you converts who don't believe in such a thing but fail to help those in most need.

If we change one thing in this world, let's have it be those who understand nothing about an issue first hand defer to those who do.


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