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clearing up confusion

Lest there be any confusion, this blog wholeheartedly supports all transgender people; whether they transition or not. My position on this is very clear and has been for a long time. Only you can know what is right for you.

What I have tried to do is to cut through the misinformation and the myths that have been developed over the decades (some very much deliberate) in order to make transgender people feel ashamed about who they are. This has come in the form of pseudoscience and even from the personal narratives of some transgender people who have set up a type of hierarchy to make themselves feel better about what they have done.

Currently there is no definitive science that would explain why we feel the way we do. Therefore whatever narrative you have written for yourself is your own. However I am more than convinced that transgender people are not suffering from any delusions; far from it.

There is a reason why we are this way but the official explanations need to catch up.

What I know in my bones but can’t prove is that there is a biological predisposition present. Something happens at the time of conception or at some point afterwards that makes us the way we are. After that, socialization and circumstances push us in a certain direction. By puberty we add sexual orientation into the mix which also acts as a factor.

Being transgender is not the result of sexual deviance or some sort of fetish because we know we are this way very early on in our development. By the age of 5 or 6 most of us know there is something different about us and how we deal with it depends on a great many factors; not the least of which is the family environment we are brought up in and the severity of the dysphoria we experience.

Most of our problems have stemmed from how we are viewed and accepted by others. If we did not have barriers within our own societies there would be no issue but this world has been hesitant to accept this difference of ours.

There have been undeniable advances made and I am sometimes bewildered to see how the world has changed since the time I was a teen trying to grapple with this difference.

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  1. Good post Joanna.

    My story is different from your story which is different from his story and her story. We are all unique.

    I think many of us have long sought to find some logical of scientifically provable explanation for our proclivities.

    I have long since come to peace with myself and simply accept myself for being the way I am and I find that through that acceptance of myself I find it easy to accept all others regardless of their manifestations or inclinations, as long as they do not demean or do things to harm others.

    I want to thank you, however, for continuing to do a lot of the heavy lifting in research and analysis. You have a tenacity that I find admirable and you do afford your readers the opportunity to digest your hard work and to opine in agreement or disagreement or to simply ponder the points you raise.

    Let me use this comment to wish you a Merry Christmas and a season filled with peace and contentment.

    Pat

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    1. and the very same to you and your family Pat!

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  2. Great post Joanna. I love your blog.

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