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newly minted

Something I find odd.

I read these stories where people pronounce themselves to be a woman. A few weeks or even days later they shave everything, put on a wig and a dress and voila: a newly minted transgender woman.

No I am not making fun but this is a very strange way of coming out. No wonder some of the world thinks we are insane; some of us are not dealing with a full deck.

These sorts of pronouncements are more likely to make news because they are more scandalous. After all, someone going to gender therapy and then transitioning after a couple of years is now old news and yet this more often than not what actually happens.

At the risk of insulting anyone's sensibilities, we are not genetically women; we have gender dysphoria. Even when someone transitions early and is the perfect picture of feminine grace that person is still technically a genetic male. My intent here is not to injure but to point out how jarring this contradiction is for someone who believes that gender dysphoria is entirely invented folly.

So here comes this newly christened transgender woman which has not gone through any formal process and is expecting everyone to take her seriously. Even I cringe at these stories and shake my head.

A lot of this is really rooted in people with varying degrees of gender issues taking advantage of the new climate and in the process making a mockery of the struggles others have gone through. might they not be better off just admitting to the world that they are gender variant and express themselves accordingly?

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