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the turning tide

The backlash against transgender people is growing and is a reflection of the attention paid in the media to this issue. Camille Paglia and others are weighing in on the transgender popularity as if being this way was something you picked up as a fad. But conversely to what she thinks, the number of transgender people isn’t growing it’s just that they now feel free to come out and express themselves in broad daylight.

Over at Crossdreamers Jack Molay’s most recent post deals with an Israeli study of brain differences between men and women which shows (to no one’s surprise) that there are differences but also a large amount of overlap between male and female brains. We see this every day in our daily life: feminine men and masculine women and everything in between. In the end we are unique creations and have our own mixture of gender traits which vary across a spectrum. This is reality.

What is not reality are the social constraints that prohibited people from being themselves. That was artificially created by the societies that people lived in and to what degree you were allowed to express yourself depended on the tolerance level.

Some people get very bothered by what they do not understand. I have always had trouble with this facet of humanity but it’s not going to go away anytime soon. There are supremely ignorant and boorish comments spewed everyday on the internet and on television. The good news is that more and more people are correcting the ones who speak without knowledge.

You can feel the tide turning.

At many points during this video sequence, Paglia is almost incoherent but that is not surprising because she is tackling a subject she is not versed or conversant in and it shows.


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