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here to stay

We have never been this visible and in spite of some of the odd birds out there making the rest of us look bad, I have never seen so much progress in so little time. Things sometimes happen like this.

Those of us over 50 who grew up during the dark ages and suffered in silence are still young enough to benefit from this renaissance. We can be ourselves for the first time in our lives and that is something money can't buy.

The old rigid binary is dead. It wasn't real but merely a forced fabrication of society that said: girls do this and boys do that. These rules varied between societies, between families and between eras. But we have finally come to realize that it's best to let people define themselves.

Those out there who know nothing of this and post about how civilisation is coming to an end never realized that we were living among them all along only quietly. We were dressing in secret and transitioning in stealth all for their benefit. Whether they like it or not we are here to stay and we have a right to dignity and respect.

I sometimes post offbeat stories here to highlight how incredibly stupid society can be. If you set your standards by its dictates you will be disappointed time and time again. I also feature wonderful role models that we can learn from and who have defined themselves in spite of obstacles placed deliberately before them.

Let this be the year where you come into your own as a transgender person and commit to living as honestly as you can all the while respecting obligations you have made to others. God made you this way so live your life respecting that nature.

You will be so glad you did.


  1. I agree....we must accept ourselves first and be proud of who we are.....we are here for a reason......


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