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towards a new glossary

The term transgender has been broadened to include people whose expression of gender does not match the expected binary norms. While I applaud this and think it’s a positive step forward what I really like is the loosening of the reins held by society that says "men do this and women do that".

Under the current umbrella term we are clumping together highly dysphoric people who absolutely must transition with people who occasionally like to crossdress and everything in between. Again, amazing inclusiveness which is good but perhaps we haven’t got the nomenclature quite right yet.

In the past we drew clear boundaries but since we see so much variation out there why not just stick to male and female for people who want to live as one or the other and stick to the script and maybe gender variant for everybody else?

For example, I have absolutely no problem with having male plumbing but I have gender dysphoria which requires me to express gender in a different way. Does that make me transgender? By today’s definition it does. But when I was growing up the latitude that exists today did not and people like me were just freaks; so were full blown transsexuals for that matter.

With barriers pertaining to expression disappearing I am predicting we will see a different glossary being developed over time.

But for the time being I have an idea: let's just use the term human behavior.



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  1. Dear Joanna,

    Here again, I think you're right on the money. Growing up I wondered if I would follow Christine Jorgensen. I read about her as much as I could (in stealth). But I was afraid and still am that that's not right for me. But I also hated the term "transvestite" which carried so much negative baggage. Like those are people that have some odd fetish and should be marginalized if they cannot control their urges. But I was definitely in that camp, so it's a good feeling to simply acknowledge that I'm trans-gender, in between somewhere. Who knows why, what happened, or cares? I'm just part of humanity, simple as that.

    By the way, I like your umbrella drawing. I'll add, though, that my understanding is that the umbrella includes those who neither transition or crossdress, those who find their thoughts drawn inexorably toward being female (if born male) and vice versa. As Jack Molay coined: "crossdreamers."

    Hugs,

    Emma

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    1. Emma I cannot take credit for that umbrella as its something I picked up from another site. Jack's crossdreamers site is probably the premium site on the web for serious discussions on this subject matter so you have done well to go there.

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