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zucker dismissed

When I was a child I wish I had been able to express myself as I wanted without fear of reprisals from anyone. It would have saved me a lot of years of grief but probably wouldn’t have changed the outcome. I would likely not have transitioned but just become my own person that much sooner.

Now the news that Dr. Kenneth Zucker has recently been dismissed from the CAMH. I have been critical of him in the past mostly due to his association with Blanchard and his notoriety as a conversion therapist.

That being said, a child who lies somewhere outside of the binary should not necessarily be encouraged to take puberty blockers and be taken down the road to early transition. There simply is too much that can change during the delicate and often turbulent adolescent years. What we should be doing is letting the child explore without pushing them in any particular direction.

What I needed as a child was latitude and I found none so I suppressed. With today’s environment of better educated parents there is no reason why we can’t just take a back seat and simply be supportive while these kids work things out.

The latest thinking seems to be that we leave transgender people alone and that is good but not all of these children are going to wind up transgender and we should give them space.

If you want to read the story on Dr. Zucker’s dismissal you will find it here.

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