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Walt Heyer keeps showing up on conservative websites which run his story alongside the familiar rants on gun control, traditional family values, taxes and how Obama is ruining the country.

God knows I wish Walt well but he seems to be the only poster child for why anyone who has had gender reassignment should immediately recant.

Everything I have read about him is that he had a very troubled period where he was cleared for surgery before being properly being screened for mental health issues.

Except that Walt uses the “throw the baby out with the bath water” approach of smearing the entire transgender movement by stating that his story applies to all others; a leap which is nothing short of disingenuous. The best he should say is that this decision was not for him and finish there. But he doesn’t and in the story I am linking to he states that he “used to be transgender”.

Except that you are or you are not. It’s not a multiple choice question.

I am on the record here many times as stating that gender reassignment should be undertaken on a must do basis and is not for the faint of heart. But I defer to the judgment of the people who have done so by assuming that they knew what they were doing. If they are happy many years later then more power to them.

Walt Heyer's story appeals to people who think transgender people are the product of mental illness and who better to instruct them than someone who attests that they were once among their ranks. I am not certain what Mr. Heyer's state of mind has been over all these years as only he is in a position to know. What he has to gain by feeding misinformation to people who seem hungry for it is another question entirely as is exactly how he is helping those who are not lining up to get their money back after their surgeries.

Mr. Heyer purports to want to help transgender people see the light by pandering to misinformed intolerants and in the story he trashes the work of Harry Benjamin someone who spent a lifetime studying this complex subject.

This blog began as a search for self understanding and now operates on a very simple and novel idea: unless you know exactly what you are talking about and can put yourself directly in the skin of another person mind your own beeswax. I know this is not how the world operates but we can aim for ideals.

This is one of those times I am not sure who I find more annoying the Blanchardians or the transgender deniers.

You can read the story here.


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  1. I read his story and do not advocate it to be an honest effort.

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