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interactions with others

I enjoy interactions with people when I am out and about as Joanna.

The other day I was sitting next to two young women. One had a young baby and the other was clearly expecting. In looking over and smiling we began a brief exchange which led to my offering some parental tips. They assumed I was a mother and I did nothing to correct them. The entire conversation couldn't have lasted 5 minutes and yet it is these interactions and others that make my outings more intetesting and rewarding.

People who know me ask how I am and I do the same with them. In establishing a public identity this is what happens. You are recognized and greeted. This is in sharp contrast to my first timid outings in my early twenties where I would dread such interactions for fear of disclosure.

The biggest change, besides creeping age of course, has been my ability to embrace who I am. This has made a tremendous difference in my level of happiness and has spread to my entire life: male or female mode.

Your identity as a human being doesn't reside in your genitals it resides in your mind and soul. Whatever physical form that takes is up to you but you just have to honor that nature in order to feel whole. The great thing is that this is something that you get to define and not society at large.

Be yourself and do what feels right. Respect others and treat them the way you would like them to treat you and be amazed at how they interact with you.

There is a young woman at one of the Payless stores I have frequented who comes to me and gives me a hug upon seeing me. That is worth more than money.





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