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understanding yourself

Over time I have come to realize that a key prerequisite for self-understanding involves a certain degree of dispassionate detachment. What do I mean by this?

Well when I was mired in my worst moments I was not able to think clearly or make full use of my cognitive skills because I was debilitated by my own emotional investment. Even if I don’t go back to my early entries here, I remember very well the conflict that raged within and I have chosen to keep that reflective history there for those who might want to see the progression.

When you truly feel free from shame, guilt and fear you will feel it and it’s not something I or anyone else can give you. It has to come from deep within. The best way I can describe my "before" would be emotional constipation driven by the fear of being found out. This was no way to live and it caught up to me eventually.

My only message from me to you is that I was an extremely tough nut to crack so if I can do it you most certainly can too.

Try and detach yourself from the emotions and truly reflect on what makes you tick. I guarantee that most of what you find is not of your making.

What is so particularly wonderful about that very fact is that you can then work on accepting who that person really is.


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  1. As someone who has followed Joanna's progression from the outset of her blog I recommend newcomers to go back in time for an interesting and informative read that combines her personal journey with some of the best "T" scholarship on the web.
    Pat

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    1. Pat you have been a kind and consistent supporter of mine from the outset...I really appreciate that

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