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a tip of the hat...

Ever since I found Jack Molay’s blog Crossdreamers I have learnt much. Not only about people like me but also others who have questioned their birth sex and have found other ways to cope. For example until I found his site, I never knew that there were people who dealt with this issue who never crossdressed. I have also learnt about female crossdreaming and how genetic women cope on their end of the spectrum.

Jack’s site is the best I have found on the web for discussing issues of gender identity and expression. It is all presented in the spirit of trying to help people cope with any distress they may harbor or just to add their point of view to the discussion. A place for literate and intellectual dialogue but also a place to vent frustration.

It is good to know that there is a venue where you can find a kindred spirit and share your thoughts without judgment or derision and where the only agenda is to encourage open discussion. You regularly see transitioned women; transgender people, crossdressers and crossdreamers share their pain, their opinons or their theories.

If you haven’t already become a regular visitor I strongly urge that you do because understanding yourself and your motivation is the secret to coping with gender dysphoria. There are always alternative approaches and you will learn simply through reading other people’s experiences.

You are definitely not alone.

Hats off to Jack...



Crossdreamers

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  1. Wow, this looks like a great resource. Thank you.

    http://www.crossdreamers.com/

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  2. It most definitely is Michelle

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  3. And, there is the companion (discussion) site, which is not to be missed! http://crossdreamlife.lefora.com

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  4. Thank you for the kind words, Joanna, thank you very much!

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